Being in love is a helluva drug. I like being in love and I’m sure you do too. And I can remember sooooo many times when I was pining after a guy who just wasn’t…
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The Importance of Queer Friendship
After a week on Fire Island in the Fire Island Pines with my NYC queer family, I’m thinking about the importance of queer friendship — especially for gay men. I just got back from a…
When & How to talk about STIs
When it comes to hooking up and STDs, some ways of talking about it are more better than others, but I think even asking when your prospective playmate was lasted tested isn’t the most helpful….
4 Reasons to NOT Open Your Relationship
Deciding whether or not to open your relationship is a big and important decision. While there are lots of good reasons to open your relationship, there are also some reasons why you SHOULDN’T open your relationship.
A Brief History of Gay Cruising
These days lots of gay guys are using Grindr for hooking up. But we didn’t always have sex available at our fingertips. For centuries (or longer!) gay and bi guys have found ways to connect with each other, even when doing so was illegal. Most of us don’t come from queer families and so we don’t learn our LGBTQ history at home. So, I set out to uncover the ways that gay and bisexual guys have met each other for friendship and sex.
In defense of casual gay sex…
I get messages from guys pretty regularly asking some variation of “is it ok to have casual sex?” “I really like hooking up, is that ok?” “I have sex with my friends, is that normal?”…
6 Signs of a Healthy Gay Relationship
Everyone wants a healthy relationship, but the sad truth is that a staggering amount of them aren’t. Somewhere between 30 and 60% of folks in marriages will cheat at some point. Six out of 10…
My Relationship Communication Mistakes
No matter how much you read, watch, and practice communicating well with your boyfriend, sometimes you’re going to mess up. In this video, I share my gay relationship communication mistakes so that you can learn from me and hopefully not make the same mistakes yourself.
How to use “I Statements” for Conflict Resolution
There’s one small change that I’ve made to the way I talk with my boyfriend that has made soooooooo much difference. Like, seriously, this one small change is responsible for so many good things. It’s this: Use I Statements
4 Books That Will Help Your Relationship (that you aren’t thinking about)
If you’re trying to build a healthy open relationship or polyamorous relationship, you may have already come across the “big name” resources out there — The Ethical Slut, More Than Two, Multiamor,y, etc. etc. While…
My Top 6 Open Relationship & Polyamory Resources
When I first started exploring open relationships, there were not nearly as many resources as there are today. I’ve read, watched, and listened to dozens and dozens — the good, the bad, and the strange so that you don’t have to — and today I want to share my top 6.