Monogamy is pulling a fast one on us… Which is not to say that monogamous relationships don’t work (they do), but instead monogamy promises things that it can’t deliver.
Gay Relationship Advice | Dating, Monogamous, Open & Polyamorous
A 5-word question that will transform your relationship
When you want to do something and you have a feeling your partner isn’t going to be too thrilled about it, how do you act?
Working Out Relationships: What health & fitness taught me about relationships
With fitness, there’s no one exercise or one meal you can eat that will suddenly change your body.
What promiscuity taught me about God’s love
I wrote this as part of Queer Theology’s 2015 Synchroblog on Sex & Bodies. Check out all the entries here. I learned about agape, God’s self-sacrificing love from a hookup. Actually, a few hookups. Actually,…
How I learned to love myself; or, moving beyond “Is it a sin?”
Are you fed up with debating over and over and over again about whether it’s “ok to be gay”? I am. And at the same time, I remember when that was the conversation that I…
What Gay Porn Taught Me About Faith
It was easier to pretend that I was straight before I looked at gay porn. That’s when it all came crashing down. Before then, I could brush it off. I was just excited to make…
The first crush I never had
My parents tell a story, of my first crush. Natassia. She lived around the corner from us. In elementary school, my favorite subjects were math and science and I was good at them. Yet somehow,…
Fred Phelps is my hero
God hates fags. Fred Phelps and his Westboro Baptist Church turned “God hates fags” into a worldwide-recognized slogan. It is the epitome of homophobia in America. Fred Phelps is the quintessential anti-gay Christian. Fred Phelps…
What if I don’t want to be this way?
Has it been 30 days? Thank you for joining me on this journey through Tough Questions on the path to acceptance. The practice of repsonding to a prompt every day has been deeply beneficial to…
Tough Questions: Marriage & Family
What do I do if I find myself with same-gender attractions but am in an opposite-gender marriage and family? I can’t speak to today’s Tough Question directly from experience. A reader submitted this question and…
Do I have to be an activist?
First, a meditation. A Litany For Survival For those of us who live at the shoreline standing upon the constant edges of decision crucial and alone for those of us who cannot indulge the passing…