This Dispatch is part of the Tough Questions series. You can sign-up for Free Daily Dispatches to receive them all. Over the past month, I’ve reflected upon many of the ways that being queer has enriched my life. In…
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Gay & attracted to women?
I had the inklings that I was attracted to other guys for a long time. Before I even had the words for it, probably. The first time I met one of my good friends in…
Tough Questions: Can I Have A Family?
It’s 10:00 PM and my evening is winding down. I pick up my MacBook Air, my journal, and the book I’m reading (The Wisdom of No Escape). I’m not sure what my plan is: to…
Tough Question: Would it be better if I (or anyone else) weren’t this way?
This Tough Question is submitted by Stephen Ira. When I first came out as gay, my mom spent a few weeks referring to it as “[my] revelation.” It was something I did, announced, put upon…
Tough Questions: Am I Perverted?
The way we talk about sex at church, you’d think no one is having it. It’s a wonder anyone of us were ever conceived! You should spend your entire life suppressing any sexual thoughts you…
Tough Questions: Will I Be Healthy?
This Dispatch is part of the Tough Questions series. You can sign-up for Free Daily Dispatches to receive them all. Gay people get AIDS and die. Did anyone ever say it to me those exact words to me? Probably…
Tough Questions: Am I A Real Man
This Dispatch is part of the Tough Questions series. You can sign-up for Free Daily Dispatches to receive them all. My grandfather played semi-professional, my father was a varsity kicker before sustaining an injury that…
Is this a faggot party? (or, Will I be uncomfortable, & Will I survive?)
This Dispatch is part of the Tough Questions series. “What is this a faggot party? Y’all a bunch of faggots. I wish I had an oozie, man I wish I had an oozie. You mess…
What Will My Parents Think?
This is the first prompt in Tough Questions On The Road To Affirmation: What Will My Parents Think? As I journeyed to self-acceptance as a queer person, this question weighed heavy. Here, I respond to…
God Intended Man & Woman
A friend said to me, I mean, I know I’m gay and that’s true to who I am and isn’t going away, but I mean—in the beginning—God intended men and women to be together. It’s…
Why Queer Liberation Must Be Queer Led
“For the master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house. They may allow us temporarily to beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change.” — Audre…